Anyhow, at the time my friend’s parents were separated and trying to work out where they had gone wrong after nearly 30 years. Her mother came to the wedding because she needed to feel good about marriage and she had known me for a long time. She gave us a wedding gift that we still have today. Her father dropped around to our house later to congratulate us and also gave us a wedding gift that we still have today. It is only now, with 10 years under my belt, that I have given those gifts any real thought and realised their poignancy.
Her mother gave us a crystal vase. Its markings are a clear pattern but the light reflects differently from every angle, much like a long term relationship. The people and behaviours that fall into patterns and are at times poorly reflected or interpreted differently by each participant in the relationship causing discord and miscommunication. Yet the vase does not break, it is deceptively strong.
Her father gave us 2 matching wine glasses, with which to sit, relax and reflect together to repair the damage of each challenge along the way. In the end, if we can’t hash it out and get back on track what hope have we got?
Not surprisingly, they got back together and remain so. How could it have gone any other way? They clearly had the wisdom, for they had just passed it on to us.
Today, celebrating 10 years of marriage I’d like to thank my husband for putting up with my shit for this long…and remind him that even though he’s no picnic sometimes he is still the person I get most excited to see. He makes me angrier and sadder, at times, than anyone I have ever met, while also making me happier and more confident than anyone else. Not to mention, I have never laughed harder in my life than at the things he says and does.
So, Cheers to another 10 years!
